Desiderata

A gentle word, an inspiring quote or a meaningful poem can bring comfort when times are tough.

Over the years, I have found one poem in particular to be comforting and chock-full of good advice on how to navigate in our complex world. It’s particularly powerful when read out loud with feeling.


Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be critical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.

– Max Ehrmann 1927

Conscious Communication

There is a note on my desk that I use as a daily reminder. It is a conscious communication practice rooted in the Buddhist tradition.

Before you speak, ask yourself these four questions:

  1. Is what I am about to say kind?
  2. Is it true?
  3. Is it necessary?
  4. Does it improve upon the silence?

Imagine a life where everyone answered yes to all four questions before speaking, texting or posting on social media. What a life that would be!

Alas, we are mere mortals and sometimes get caught up in life’s drama. Whenever we do, we all feel the resulting pain. Let that pain be a reminder to come back to these simple questions – to use when communicating with others AND when talking to ourselves. Our words will resonate with authenticity and love.

Like a pebble dropped in a pond, the ripple effects will resonate throughout our world,

Ah, the peace!

Ripple in water